Mom is giving dad ‘bun’

Dear Pastor,

I have a problem and my brother and I decided to write to you about it. My parents are both in their 50s. My mother is always complaining that my father is not giving her enough money. My father goes on farm work and we know how much money he sends home to our mother. We also know that my mother is cheating on our father with another man.

I am 14 years old and my brother is 16. It was my brother who told me how bad our mother was. He heard my mother talking to the man and arranging a date with him.

At first, he thought it was our daddy that our mother was talking to. But then he realised that it was another man. He told me about it and said that, while we should not say anything, we should plan to mash up the date, and we should tell our father what was going on.

This man that my mother was friendly with is married also and his wife taught me in school. So one day I told her that I knew her husband and she asked me how I know him.

I told her that he has been to our house. She did not say anything but that is not what my brother had planned to do. My brother had planned to tell our daddy about this man.

Another day, my teacher asked me where I lived and I told her and she did not say anything to me. But my mother suspected that something was said to this man.

I know that because she asked me about it and I lied and told her that I did not know what she was talking about.

We know that our mother has cheated on our father many times. We heard them arguing already and my father told my mother that he knew that she was a cheater.

But it is proof that he does not have why she keeps getting away with what she is doing.

V.D.

Dear V.D.,

I am sure what you said to your teacher was enough to cause her to think. You don't have to say another word. If your mother is cheating, she will eventually be caught.

It is a matter of time. 'Time is longer than rope', so the truth will be revealed even if it takes a long time.

Pastor.