I think she is cheating on me

Dear Pastor,

I'm a 25-year-old man and I have something on my mind I would like your advice on. I've been a reader of your column for years, and always catch up when I have the chance.

I've been dating a young lady for a while now. She is 27 years old. We have been dating for about three years. She works at a shop in the parish where we met.

While having this job, she obtained a side hustle, which she was able to do without any of the two jobs overlapping with each other.

I was going by the shop to see her when I realised the man she was doing the side hustle with was there talking to her. But I didn't like how he was standing next to her. I asked her about it and she said it was nothing, and that he was just friendly, and that they have known each other for a long time.

We were talking one day and I mentioned something sexually about them and she said that it was a long time ago. To my understanding, they have had a sexual relationship before us. She said they were just friends.

Pastor, many nights when she leaves work, she told me she is at his house checking off the money. This man lives a short distance away from the centre of the town. Pastor, I didn't say anything because I thought they were just friends, but now that I know all of this, I don't trust her any more.

It's hard for me to believe nothing happened every time she went by her so-called friend's place. Should I just leave? It's been about a year now since this happened but I don't think I can trust her even though she claims nothing happened. Please, Pastor, I await your response.

Confused

Dear Confused,

You have not said anything in your letter that would make me encourage you to end the relationship with this woman. You did not see her doing anything that was inappropriate. They were not in a compromising position. If you were to examine yourself, you would conclude that you are a very jealous person and you do not trust your woman.

You probably should discuss what you saw with her, but do not give her the impression that you think she is cheating on you. And I wish you well.

Pastor