Boyfriend’s brother keeps stealing

Dear Pastor,

I am 28 years old and I'm living with a man and his older sister. This man is 30 years old and his sister is 35 years old. Their parents live abroad.

I met them last year when they visited Jamaica. They told us they were not coming back to live here. They are now US citizens.

This man's sister is very nice and we get along, but his brother is not honest. Since I have been living here, I have to lock up everywhere.

I have missed my jewellery, my money, and on one occasion my passport disappeared; but I got it back. The only reason I got it back was because my boyfriend said he was going to call the police and have him arrested. His sister said that she believes he was the one stealing my things.

He wants us to leave the house so he can get it to bring in his friends. I was told that he wants the room we occupy to earn money because he is not working.

He had a girlfriend but she left him because he does not believe in hard work. Every girl he gets leaves him because he does not believe in taking care of them. They have to take care of him.

When his brother is here, he does not fool around, but his brother drives a taxi and he is on call. His brother warns him not to fool around me. But when he is not here, he wants to raise his voice at his sister and try to bully her for money. He is always calling the US and begging his parents to send him money because things are expensive in Jamaica.

His father does not send him any money but his mother will send him some help sometimes. I don't know what women see in him, but he changes women more often than he changes underpants. I told his brother that we should leave here and go and rent somewhere. But his brother is not willing to leave.

D.A.

Dear D.A.,

At the time that you missed your jewellery, you should have reported it to the police, but your boyfriend would probably not have agreed with you to do that.

And when your passport disappeared you suspected that he took it. The question is, what was he going to do with it? Anyway, I am glad you got it back.

You should put these things carefully away. I can understand why you are encouraging your man to live somewhere else but he is smart enough to resist that. He is living at the house and he doesn't have to pay rent. He maintains the house because his parents are not planning to live in Jamaica any more.

He is at the house and by staying there he is protecting his sister. You should be very careful. Keep out of his brother's way and save as much as you can to buy your own home.

Pastor