Afraid to have sex with my wife

Dear Pastor,

I am 62 and I suffered a heart attack. Friends have been telling me to be careful with this sex thing. My wife is 50 years old and she is in her prime.

I am feeling fit but I am afraid to have sex because my wife can be very aggressive and I know how she can carry on when she feels sexy. I asked my doctor if I could resume having sex and he said yes because I seem to be as fit as a fiddle. I am nervous about it. What is your advice?

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Dear Initials Withheld,

I am glad to know that you are feeling well. I'm sure that from time to time you wonder whether you are fit and ready to have sexual intercourse. I know that you trust your doctor and your doctor means well and you have to learn to trust yourself too.

You love your wife and she loves you, but I am sure that she knows that both of you have to be careful as you resume having sex. Some women love to enjoy sex for a long time but some don't. You say that your wife can be aggressive when she is feeling hot and 'ready for action'. But she knows what you have gone through and you know what you have gone through.

And remember, my brother, penis to vagina is not the only way a man and his wife can satisfy each other.

I would suggest that you discuss this matter again with your doctor, and I would also suggest that your wife should accompany you when you go to the doctor.

Pastor