Older woman in love with my ‘big bamboo’

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I am a 24-year-old young man and I am in love with my neighbour who is 40 years old. She has a boyfriend but he is not around.

He spends most of his time in the US, because he has a green card. I asked her why he won't marry her so that she can get a green card too. She said that she does not like him that much, but she likes me.

Pastor, I am still going to university. I don't have anything to give her. When I told her that, she said that she was not asking me for anything.

She told me that she would give me what I wanted as long as I can give her the 'bamboo'. When I was small and my mother was bathing me, she told me I had a big 'bamboo'. And she laughed. So I know that this woman is talking the truth.

She does not have children and she lives alone in a three-bedroom house. She said the house belongs to her boyfriend and they don't have children together. This woman is not afraid at what people say about her. She says that she wants to be happy and people should learn to mind their own business.

I have another girlfriend. She was before this woman. She still likes me but I always have to give her money. I don't have to give this woman any money, as long as I take care of what she likes. I am really getting to like her.

Is there anything wrong with giving this woman what she wants and getting money from her?

L.C.

Dear L.C.,

This woman who is 40 years old likes you, but it is a sexual thing. The only thing she talked about is your so-called big bamboo. She told you that she does not need anything from you but, in your heart, you know what you need from her and that is her money. I would not be surprised if some of the money that she is giving to you comes from her man who lives abroad.

Whether you know it or not, this is a bad woman, because she is giving her boyfriend the impression that everything is well. That is surely not true, because she has you to have sexual intercourse with her and to meet her sexual needs.

You believe that you are a king right now. But would you like to know that you have a woman whom you are supporting financially while another man is spending your money and enjoying himself with her? I am sure you would not like that.

I cannot encourage you to continue having a relationship with this woman. I just have a feeling that you and this woman are playing a very dangerous game and you will get hurt. So, walk away from this woman.

Pastor