Spiteful woman stalking my boyfriend

Dear Pastor,

I am 24 and I am writing to you about a problem. Two years ago, I got a job and after a month I fell in love with the company's messenger.

This guy did not have a car or anything like that, but he was very charming and mannerly and I could always ask him to do things for me on the road. He used to ride the motor bike that was owned by the company.

I did not know that he had another girlfriend in the company who he was in love with. When I found out, I told him that I could not continue with him. By that time, the girl had gone to the boss and complained. The boss told me that it was either I give up the job or I give up the man. I thought about it and decided to give the guy up.

Then the fellow told me that he and the other girl were not really intimate. He said he told her that he didn't like her that way. He went to the boss and explained himself and the boss told him that the best way to deal with that was not to talk to her anymore and to tell the other women in the company that he was not into them.

That girl has told lies about me in so many ways to try to get me fired. My boyfriend has got another job just to be away from her and she is stalking him. She can tell anybody how many times he has come to see me. He is a decent man. He earns more than what I earn. So he helps me to pay my rent.

He is the only child for his mother but he is not a mama's boy. I left home without anything and, although he is still living at his house, he has helped me to buy a stove and a refrigerator and I am never late with my rent.

He wants us to go to church. He says that he grew up in church and he feels like a backslider. My birthday was in October and he bought me a pre-engagement ring. This is the third guy I am in love with and, so far, he is the best.

What do you think I should do to express my love to him? I know that you are a counsellor, but please talk to me as an ordinary man.

P.M.

Dear P.M.,

Let me begin by saying that I am glad that you did not lose your job. There are some companies that are very strict regarding employees having relationships that are not platonic.

The moment employees establish intimate relationships, the employers discourage them and may even ask them to leave. And there are good reasons for that policy, but I won't get into those now. Suffice it ,to say that both of you were able to explain yourselves to management and your job was saved.

You were careful to mention that he is the only child for his mother but he is not a mama's boy. This man has been very kind to you. He is really setting you up nicely and I hope that you would be true and faithful to him. I can only wish the both of you the very best in life. The young woman who is stalking him is wasting her time. Don't lower your standards by responding to her. One of these days she may get tired and stop.

This man wants both of you to go back to church. That is a good man. I hope that the love between the both of you will grow stronger and that, in the future, both of you will get married.

Concerning the pre-engagement ring, I suggest that you give that back to your boyfriend. When the time comes, he needs to buy you a good engagement ring. This pre-engagement ring is nonsense.

Pastor