Think my ex-boyfriend got me pregnant again

Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old woman. I have one son. His father and I broke up but he supports his child. Every time he talks to me, he asks me to come back to be with him.

But I told him that the guy that I have treated me better than he did. So we should only be friends but no bed works. He supports his child well. I wouldn't tell a lie about that at all.

But I have a problem now because he saw me at the bus stop waiting for the bus and he said he would give me a ride home. I was glad for the ride but he took a different road and I asked where he was going. He said that his mother was always asking for me so we should go and visit her. So I said all right. He lives with his mother.

When we went to his mother's home, she was not there. So I got vexed and I told him that I wanted to leave. He calmed me down but I was afraid. It started to rain and he was there playing with me and before I knew it, my pants were down to my ankles and we were having sex.

Now I have missed my period and I am so afraid because I don't want any more children for now. What would I tell my boyfriend? He wouldn't believe anything I say. I don't know how I have got into this. I know my ex has a girlfriend. They are not living together but he told me that he has a girlfriend. I told him I missed my period and he said that he will take care of the baby and I shouldn't fret. I just don't want any more children now.

My boyfriend promised to marry me and I believe that he would keep his word. He is the type of man any woman would want. I am feeling the same way I felt when I was pregnant with my first child. I know I am pregnant. I asked my baby's father why he didn't pull out and not discharge in me. He said he was not concentrating on that.

Please, Pastor, help me. Why is it that some men are so selfish? This man would do anything to get me back. Please give me a word.

A.

Dear A.,

Well, you are not sure that you are pregnant. You should ask this man to give you money to go to the doctor. From what you have said, you suspect that you are, but the doctor would confirm whether or not you are. This man is very wicked. He knew exactly what he was doing. All he wanted was sex and he didn't think about you. He is a selfish man.

But I can tell you that if you are pregnant you should have your baby. It might be rough on you but do what is right. I would not encourage you to do an abortion.

The Good Lord will help you. You might lose your boyfriend. He might not forgive you and he would want to know why you did not tell him about the incident. He might also want to know why you accepted the ride from your child's father. It would be hard to convince him that this man forced you to have sex with him. I would be glad to hear from you again after you have gone to the doctor.

Pastor