Boyfriend wanted to have a threesome

Dear Pastor,

I am 31 years old and I grew up in a strict home. I did not have a boyfriend until l went to university. When I invited my boyfriend to the country to meet my parents, they asked him too many questions and it turned him off. But we still continued our relationship.

My boyfriend was too hot to handle and he always wanted us to go out. Our break-up came when he wanted one of my roommates, himself and me to have a threesome. My roommate did not keep it among us; she told other girls and I was embarrassed. My father is a hard worker and he used to send me money and I always gave this guy money because he was always broke.

I forgave him for his desire for the three of us to join together and participate in a threesome, but I could not forgive him for something else. One day he classed my people as illiterate. I thought he was disrespectful to my folks.

Since this guy and I left each other, I have found it hard to settle down. I have a good job and I have met many men because of my job, but all they want is to go to bed with me. I pay my own rent and I own a little car.

I have gone on to do another degree. I am now dating a pentecostal young man so I don't know how far this relationship will go. But so far he has been behaving himself. He comes from a decent family. When he and my family meet, they discuss a lot of scripture. I am short and he is tall. I always wanted a tall man. He likes the ministry so one of these days I may end up as a minister's wife. This guy who asked me to take part in a threesome now has three children with two different women.

E.G.

Dear E.G.

Let me start by telling you to not allow this guy's age to deter you from marrying him. If you love him and you believe that the both of you can have a future together, go for it.

The man who called your family illiterate is rude and out of order. He did not respect you and that is why he felt that he could suggest to you that you could have a threesome. You are still young, and you can look forward to having a wonderful marriage and a happy relationship. Your day will come.

Pastor