Sleeping with by friend’s mom

Dear Pastor,

I am asking you to please give me your advice. From I was 17 years old I have been having an affair with a big woman. Her son and I went to the same high school and we used to play football together. Sometimes I used to sleep at his house. My parents were poor and there were many of us in the house. Sometimes four or five of us slept on the same bed. When my friend went off to college, this woman said I could come and stay with her and keep her company. My mother agreed. I did not know she liked me in a different way, not like a mother would like her son.

She started out by asking me to come into the bathroom when she was having her shower and to scrub her back. I started to scrub her back and her shoulder and she said it felt good. Then she told me to take off my clothes and she would scrub my back, too. I told her when she was finished bathing, I would have my shower. She asked me if I ever had anything to do with a woman and I told her no. She exposed herself fully before me and she told me that she would teach me many things. I was nervous and wanted to go home, but she didn't want me to leave her; she wanted me to sleep with her. So I did, and we had sex, and that went on for months. She bought me clothes. One day, my mother told me that it seemed like this woman had taken me over. I never said a word.

She does not want me to have a girlfriend. Her son and I have remained friends. The only time I don't sleep with her is when he is at home. This woman gives me everything, but I know it is not right for us to be having sex. She is the same age as my mother. I have a girlfriend, and I told her about my girlfriend. I asked her if she wanted to meet her and she said no. I am asking you for your advice.

E.

Dear E.,

What I am about to tell you might be difficult for you, but it is the correct thing to do. Leave this woman's house immediately, and when she asks you why you are leaving, tell her that it is the correct thing for you to do and you are not comfortable having sex with her. What I say to you might be difficult, because you have got accustomed to this woman buying you all sorts of gifts. But you can go and get yourself a job and buy these things on your own. Get out of her house, and do so as early as possible.

Pastor