Quickie with my sister’s lover cost me my man

Dear Pastor,

I am a 27-year-old woman. I have never been married, but I have been sexually active from I was 17 years old. I have tried all different types of guys and I know what I want, what I enjoy doing, and if I need something, I know how to get it.

However, I am having a problem because my last boyfriend left me. I told him a lie and he found out. I didn't admit that it was a lie, but told more lies to cover up the lie. He was a very good lover and he also helped me to pay my bills. He was also planning to marry me. He found out that I had an affair with my sister's boyfriend. He asked me about it and I denied it.

It was just a one-night stand. I went to visit my sister, she was not at home. Her boyfriend had just come out of the bathroom. He had on a robe but he was not properly covered up, and looking at him turned me on. I told him that he was looking good, and one thing led to another, and we had a quickie.

It was nothing planned but he told somebody what happened and that person told my boyfriend who asked me and I denied it. He asked me over and over, but I told him anybody who told him that I cheated doesn't like me. He said he believed that I cheated and he could see it in my eyes, so our relationship ended.

I hate myself for what I did. My sister spoke to him and told him that she heard that I had sex with her boyfriend but she doesn't believe it, but he told her that he believed. Her boyfriend told her that it was a lie. I have begged my boyfriend to come back to me but he told me the relationship is over. I want him back, so please tell me what I should do.

M.

Dear M.,

Regardless of what you try to say, you have to admit that you are a bad girl, and I hope that the man you claim to love so much would never come back to you.

You should never be trusted by any man. You went to visit your sister and her boyfriend was there. I don't doubt that he exposed himself a little to you, but that was not done purposely, and what you should have done was to rebuke him and tell him to go and get dressed. Instead, you used that as an opportunity to go to bed with him. You did so because you are bad. You are very bad.

Your sister did not believe that you went to bed with her boyfriend, because it is difficult for her to accept that you did that with her man. You need to leave this man who was your boyfriend alone and learn to keep your body under control.

Pastor