Friend hates me over my husband’s money

Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am a writing to you. I am 41 years old and I have four children, two before I got married and the other two with my husband.

My husband loves the children I had before we got married and he treats them very well. Their father doesn't know how they eat or drink. My husband told me not to ask him for anything, and he does not volunteer to give them anything at all. When I met my husband, I did not know how my children would react, because they are boys, but right away they started calling him dad and I did not have to tell them to do so.

He is a builder and they started to go with him on weekends to any job that he had. He would give them money, telling them that was for the day's work. I told him he was spoiling them and he said no, they earned the money. I act as a secretary for my husband. He trusts me with his money. We have never had any major problems, but recently one of my friends wanted to borrow some money from him and he told her to ask me for the money because I am in charge. I told her to go to the bank, so she 'maliced' me and told people that I am mean. Because of that our friendship ended.

My husband knows that I will protect his money. This girl has a reputation of borrowing money and not paying it back. She is always having money problems, and man problems also, so I can't trust her with our money, and I don't want my man to have anything to do with her.

Do you think that I am wrong?

O.P.

Dear O.P.,

You have been fortunate in having a good husband. He is a hard worker, a good father, and he is very intelligent. His children will respect him because they see that he loves their mother and that he takes care of the family. Your husband trusts you. It is such a blessing when a man can trust his wife with his money. Money sometimes can break up friendships. You did not give your friend a loan. You told her to go to the bank. Perhaps she is not qualified to get a loan from the bank, but she is not qualified to get a loan from you either, so don't allow her reaction to upset you. Just leave her alone.

Continue to take care of your husband and your children, and see that your children get a good education. I wish the family well.

Pastor