Wondering if my fiancée would cheat on me

Dear Pastor,

I am 51 years and I am about to be married for the second time. My wife died seven years ago and it has taken me a long time to get over her death. She was a good wife and a great mother for our two children. The kids and I are very close and they are doing very well.

This woman I am hoping to marry is 30 years old. I have a sister who is older than I am, and she has been warning me, saying that this young lady is too young for me, and that I am going to get into trouble if I should marry her. My sister believes that by the time I am 65 years old, this young woman will keep other man with me. I have been wondering what to do.

I asked my fiancee if she would ever cheat on me and she said that I should be ashamed of myself to ask her such a question. She doesn't have that in mind. She doesn't have any children, but she says she would like to have two. I did not have any intention of having more children; but I have to consider her age and decided to have two more. She has a good job and she lives with her mother. They have their own house. Her father left her mother when she was about 10 years old. This woman doesn't ask me for anything. I love that about her.

Pastor, tell me how you feel about what I have told you. Do you feel that because she is so young she is likely to cheat? Please for an answer.

C.G.

Dear C.G,

I understand your sister's concern, but it is not something for you to worry about. This young lady and yourself love each other, and both of you believe that you should get married. I would not discourage you from marrying her. The relationship can work if you genuinely love her and she genuinely loves you.

She won't necessarily cheat. I believe that both of you should go for premarital counselling before you set your wedding date, and I wish you well.

Pastor