My husband is having an affair with his boss

Dear Pastor,

I have discovered that my husband is having an affair with his employer. I feel that her husband should know about it, but I don't know him. I am wondering if he would believe me if I phoned him. He lives abroad, but he spent a few months here last winter. Nobody else knows, as far as I am aware. I feel strongly that he has a right to know what is going on behind his back. Please advise me. Thank you.

G.B.

Dear G.B.,

You have declared that you discovered that your husband is having an affair with his employer. But, I regret that you did not say how you became aware of what is going on. How did you find out? This is a serious allegation, and if you were to tell this woman's husband that your husband is having an affair with his wife, and he takes you seriously, he would want more information from you. On the other hand, he might do something crazy and hurt his wife.

In this world, there are so many troublemakers. Some men will hear that their wives are having affairs and accept that as an allegation, but some will not. So unless you are prepared to give more information, you should just keep your mouth shut and deal with your husband privately on the matter. If it is a matter for which you have hard evidence, it is still not wise for you to take this matter to the woman's husband.

If you had caught your husband having sex with the woman and you have pictures, that would be a different matter. Your husband would not be able to deny it. I must ask this question, what is your motive in telling this man about his wife and your husband? Is it that you want this man to leave his wife? Or is it that you want your husband to behave himself and stay with you only? I would really like to know what proof you have of the allegation that you have made. Do you have any receipt showing that your husband took this woman to a hotel? What do you have? If this is a matter of hearsay, warn your husband. Be careful what you say and do. You may ruin this woman's life.

Pastor