Anxious to get married

Dear Pastor,

I am 30 years old and I am getting married for the first time this December. I have one daughter. I became pregnant with her when I was 24 years old.

I have lived a celibate life from the time I had my daughter. Some people don't believe that but it is the truth. When I met my fiance, we went together for six months and he had to beg and beg and beg me to give him a chance in my life. My son's father lied to me and got me pregnant and I locked men from my mind. I used my time and energy to study. My parents helped me with my son. My son calls my mother mommy and my father daddy.

My parents have already said that after I get married, I will have to get pregnant soon after that because they are not giving me my son. My fiance does not have children. He, like myself, grew up in church and we are trying to maintain a certain standard. We have been attending counselling sessions once per week. There are so many things I have to learn at my age, but I will get there.

My fiance had paid down on a lovely three-bedroom town house and I am in a position to help him pay for this property so that my name will be added to the title. My parents think that I should buy a home on my own, but we think that we should use some of our money to invest in other areas. The days are going by slowly. We are anxious to get married.

H.P.

Dear H.P.,

I am very happy for you. You seem to have found a good man and soon, wedding bells will ring. Your fiance is doing a good thing by buying property and you should join in with him and pay for it. Nothing is wrong with that. Husband and wife must work together, pay bills together and invest in their future together. So, congratulations and I wish your man and yourself the very best that life will have to offer.

Pastor