This man is trying to get me into bed

Dear Pastor,

I am a 65-year-old woman but I don't look my age. I find myself admiring men. Some of them know that I am interested in them. But, they pretend that they are not interested. One of these men saw me at an event and when I got home and went to bed, in the middle of the night, he called me. He apologised for calling me so late. He wanted to know who took me to the event. I told him that I went to it alone. He said he could not take his eyes off me. He wanted to know whether he could come to my house to visit and I told him it would have to be after COVID. He said he could not wait that long.

I reminded this man that I am 65 years old and I don't play around. He just wants to talk, that's what he said. But I know that he is a liar. I told him that we could always talk on the phone. We started talking, but this man, who is 70 years old, wants to engage me in an area I don't want to go. I try to invite him to church, but he is not interested in that. I told him to throw his net somewhere else, but he insists that he wants me. I don't want to insult him, but I am not interested in having sex with him and that is what he wants. Every conversation that we have, he brings up sex. I am just tired of him.

F.R.

Dear F.R.,

Some folks are sexually active in their 60s and 70s. There is a woman who told me on the Dear Pastor Show that her husband was active up to the age of 88, and he did not just have one woman. She described him as wild. She said she fed him well. He couldn't control the sexual urges.

You are 65 years old. You are not interested in this man who is showing great interest in you. He doesn't just want you to be his friend, he wants you to be his lover. I don't know why you find it so difficult to tell this man that you are not interested. Whether he feels hurt or not, that is not the issue. Just tell him not to call you back because you do not like the conversations that he always wants to have with you. And tell him that as a Christian, you do not wish to entertain his type of conversation.

Pastor