Think I have finally found Mr Right

Dear Pastor,

I am in my 50s and I want to share something with you. I have five children. When I was growing up, I did not want a large family, but I ended up having five of them.

I did not have luck with men, so all five have different fathers. People would think I was a bad girl, but I wasn't bad. Some of the men I went with were because of needs. I had one or two guys who were my regulars. They would help me but didn't always want sex.

When I got pregnant with my first child, I did not know who got me pregnant. I was young. It was an older woman who sat down with me and asked me questions and we figured out who got me pregnant. I called the right name and I approached the guy and told him and he told me that he suspected that he got me pregnant. I didn't have anywhere to go because my father had warned me that if I got pregnant, I would have to leave. This man's mother took me in and I stayed there until one year after I had the baby. I did not know that this guy had two other girlfriends and the two of them were pregnant for him at the same time.

I moved and went to live with another man. Soon after I went to live with him, I found myself pregnant. I became a slave in this man's house. He was not helpful. I washed, cooked, cleaned and did everything. He was a rum head. Almost every day he was drunk. He didn't buy me anything. All he bought was food. He didn't give me money to buy anything for myself. But he was so jealous and was always watching me. So, I went from one man to the next until I ended up with five children.

I went to live with an old woman. She helped me keep the children while I went out to work. I stayed there with her until she became sick and died. I am involved with one of her sons. He is her youngest son. His brothers and sisters know about our relationship. He wants us to get married, but I don't know what to do. One of my children calls him uncle. I am older than him. He takes good care of me. Since we became friends, I have never gone with another man. Do you think I should agree to marry this man? I am waiting on you for your advice.

R.R.

Dear R.R.,

I su ggest that you accept this man's proposal and marry him. Don't be concerned about his age. It is not very often that a man would marry a woman who has had five children by five different men. So this man is very special. Don't delay, marry him.

Pastor