Think my husband got the helper pregnant

Dear Pastor,

Please give me your advice. I met you some years ago when you were doing an outside broadcast in Christiana. I was among the group of persons who wanted to meet you personally. But I did not know that the time would come when I would have to write to you. I have been living with a man for over 10 years. The relationship started out very well. We have two children together. He loves his children. But he got involved with the girl who looked after the children while I was gone to work. I suspected that he was carrying on with her, but he denied it. She denied it, too.

One of her friends told me that she confided in her that it was my man who got her pregnant. I said that to my husband and he told me that I was listening to people and they should mind their own business. Whenever I was around, my husband did not talk to her. I asked the helper what was the name of her babyfather and she said that he is not in Jamaica. She said that she was not hearing from him. I told her that I hoped that the father was not my husband and she said I should never think that way. I told my husband he should get her to agree to do a DNA test and he told me that was a waste of money. I am willing to pay for the test to clear my husband's name.

I don't want this girl to get my man. He and I have come a long way. I fret over this problem all the time. What do you think I should do? Please answer very soon.

R.S.

Dear R.S.,

Somebody is not telling the truth. This young woman has worked with you as a helper and you trusted her. But there is always a possibility that she and your husband could have carried on an affair. She told one of her friends that it was your husband who got her pregnant. Why would she lie? And why is it that your husband is always blaming you for raising the matter with him? This girl has an answer for you anytime you question her about her pregnancy. Perhaps your husband has told her what to say to you whenever you question her. If he has impregnated this girl, he is trying to protect himself.

The matter of the DNA is not a bad idea. But I do not believe that you should pay for it. Your husband should be glad to submit himself to do a DNA test and to set your mind at ease. That would not be a waste of money. What is going to happen after the young woman has given birth? Would you agree to have her come back to work with you? I hope not. I believe that your husband knows that he is in trouble. But I would encourage you to push for that DNA test. You need to know the truth. Whether or not he is responsible for impregnating this young woman, make sure that she is granted maternity leave according to law. Will she register the child in your husband's name if he is the father?

Pastor