Girlfriend is upset that I texted her mom

Dear Pastor,

I am currently in a relationship with a girl and I did something wrong. We had a little argument and I texted her mom telling her that we were having a dispute.

I just wanted to tell her mom that I had been calling her but she was declining the calls. I told her that I love her daughter very much. But then I sent a screenshot of the argument to her mom. I really love my girlfriend.

All of this happened last October, Pastor. The girl was going through her mom's phone in January and saw that I texted her. Now she is saying that she wants to leave me. She blocked me more than five times and then unblocked me and texted me. But, this time, she is really serious. I have been crying over the phone to her to forgive me. Pastor, I am really sorry that I did that to her. I wasn't thinking straight that night and the thought of us breaking up was just too much for me to bear.

Do you think I was wrong to text her mom? I am looking forward to your reply.

H.S.

Dear H.S.,

A man should not complain to his girlfriend's mother about everything. You acted like you and your girlfriend were children. I would not encourage this young woman to renew the relationship. You need to grow up and to handle situations on your own.

Your girlfriend's mother should not have seen what you wrote to your girlfriend. If you are able to convince her that you were wrong and beg her pardon for what you have done, and you are fortunate to have her take you back into her life, I hope that she will remember that she is dealing with a boy and not a grown man. You may do something foolish again and embarrass her. I have no sympathy for you. You should learn to respect your woman.

Pastor