This older woman wants to marry me

Dear Pastor,

I am a man who is very hard to please. I have tried many girls, but they didn't suit me, so the relationships did not get far. I have children, but they are all girls.

I have tried different women hoping that one would give me a boy, so I met a woman who has a son and I took the son as my own. I raised him and, when he turned 13, he was rude to his mother and I spoke to him about it. He told me that he did not have to listen to me because I am not his father. When I complained to his mother about what he said, she said I should not worry about that. I was doing everything for this boy. I was not satisfied with what his mother told me, so I left her.

I had made an addition to this woman's father's house because I was living there with her. She said that she did not beg me to make the addition, so she did not have any money to give me.

I am now living with an older woman. She treats me like a king. She is 20 years my senior. She is asking me to marry her. Do you think it is wise for me to do so? I love her. She can hardly walk, so I know she will not run around with any other man. I need your advice. I would like to get married by August.

T.S.

Dear T.S.,

This woman's son was rude to you and his mother did not correct him. That is a good reason to leave her because the young man was indicating to you that you are nothing to him and you had no right to try to correct him. You knew right away that he would continue to be rude to you as he grew older.

You spent a lot of money on the house to make the addition. You will not die because you invested in this woman. Now, you have met a much older woman. You know for sure that she loves you. You haven't said that you love her, but I am assuming that you do. If you love her, don't allow her age to prevent you from marrying her. Marry her as soon as you can.

Pastor