BOYFRIEND GOT OUR HOUSEMATE PREGNANT

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I met a man while I was attending university. We graduated together. He got a job before I did. My parents paid my rent, but when my father lost his job, they could not help me much. So, I moved in with my boyfriend. Everything was going well, but the rent was a bit steep and there were two rooms.

One of my girlfriends was looking for a place to live and she asked us if we would rent her one of the rooms, which we agreed. This girl is such a Christian that I did not think that she would have eyes for my boyfriend. She would come home from work, go to the bathroom and from there to her room. If she went to the kitchen, it was not for long. She lived on fast food. Most weekends she would go home to the country.

We got along very well until one day my boyfriend and I were sitting on the couch. This girl had left for the country about an hour before and while we were on the couch, a text message came in from her to my boyfriend saying 'Please call me'. I asked him why she wanted him to call her since she just left here. He said that he did not know. I told him to call her and he was reluctant. So I dialled her number from his phone and handed him the phone and said 'Talk to her'.

He nervously started to talk to her and then she informed him that she had missed her period and she may be pregnant. I was stunned with what I was hearing, but she did not know that I was listening. This girl was living right here in my house and was having sex with my boyfriend under my nose.

My boyfriend and I don't have children. He said that the child was not his. When the girl came back from the country, I tried to keep my cool. But I told her that my boyfriend told me that she was accusing him of getting her pregnant. She did not look me in the face, but she told me that my boyfriend is the only man she had sex with and she is thinking of killing herself. I asked her how it happened. She said that one day she was in her room and I went out for a walk and my boyfriend was always begging her for sex and so she agreed to give him a quickie. She said that she did not mean to hurt me. She said she had already found a place to live. I told her that she could stay and I would leave.

This girl is short, but attractive. She has nothing over me. I keep asking my boyfriend why he had to go to her and he said it was just a man thing. The girl left. The baby is not yet born, but I cannot stay with this man. I don't know what to do.

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Dear Writer,

You don't have anything to be ashamed of. You were trying to help this lady who was in need of a place to live. She pretended to be a good friend. But evidently, she always had an eye on your boyfriend. You did not know that your boyfriend would have become involved with her. He described his behaviour as a 'man thing'. He seems to want to say that all men are like him. But you know that is not true. I am not going to tell you to leave him or to stay with him. You have to make that decision on your own. But I am glad that the young lady has left. But now that you know the type of man with whom you are living, try not to bring 'cheese in a rat's mouth'.

Pastor