This boy tried to kiss me on the first date - Not sure if I should go out with him again

Dear Pastor,

I am 17 years old and on Valentine's Day I went out with a guy. This was my first date with him but I have gone out on dates before. I am living with my father and stepmother.

I am still attending high school. My father is very strict. He tells me all the time to tell him the truth and so I do. This guy who took me out on Valentine's Day was told to take me home by 9 p.m. When it was getting close to the time, I reminded him to call the taxi to take me home. He said that my father would understand if I was late and I told him no. We were at a very popular spot and he asked me for a kiss. I told him that he could kiss me on my cheek but not on my lips. He tried to force his tongue into my mouth and I pushed him away. I hate him for what he did. He is a nice-looking guy, but I don't know him well enough to allow him to French kiss me. He told me that we are not children and I am old enough to consent to have sex. He said that if I am old enough to consent to have sex, I am old enough to give him a proper kiss.

This guy has turned me off. We talk on the phone but I told him that I will not go out with him again. He said he is not sorry for trying to kiss me and I will get over what he tried to do. Do you think I should forgive this guy for what he tried to do? And should I go out with him again? I can't tell my father what happened, so I am asking you for your opinion.

K.T.

Dear K.T.,

You have written about two matters. One, the young man seemed to have been reluctant in getting you home on time, and when you urged him to call the taxi, he tried to French kiss you. You handled the matter very well. You pushed him away. You may forgive him for his foolish act. A French kiss is for people who have been involved intimately for a while. So he made a mistake and you put him in his place. Two, you should consider forgiving him for his foolish behaviour. I doubt that he will try to do so again if both of you should go on another date. Don't ignore him if he wants another date from you. I am sure that he has regretted what he has done.

Pastor