My wife is pregnant for another man - I found out after we tied the knot

Dear Pastor,

I am a 31-year-old man and I am crying over what I have found out about my wife. I met this woman in a camp and we fell in love.

After camp, we went our separate ways but we kept in contact with each other. She was a beautiful girl. I used to admire her on the field in her gym clothes. After camp was over, I told myself that I was going to marry her. I asked her if she had a boyfriend and she said no. I had a couple of girlfriends but these were not serious relationships. So, I cut everybody off.

After two years of talking and going out, we decided to get married. But this girl has deceived me because we never had sex before we got married. But soon after we got married, I found out that she was pregnant. I asked her how come. She admitted that she got impregnated by a man she knew before she and I became friends and it was a real slip up on her part.

I didn't expect that to happen to me. I thought that I was marrying a lady. I did not know that she was a cheater. My pastor told me that I should wait until she has the baby and then do a DNA test to find out if the child is mine. I don't have to wait for a DNA test because I know that we did not have sex. She is begging me not to tell anybody about it, but I have already told my pastor. Her parents think that she is carrying my baby. But this child is not mine. I asked her for the name of the man who got her pregnant, but she has refused to tell me.

I do not intend to stay with this woman. But I told her that I will not put her out until she has the baby. I would like your advice, please. Sometimes my wife asks me to hug her, but I can't hug her with this belly that she is carrying that is not mine.

P.D.

Dear P.D.,

I feel very sorry to hear of your dilemma. Your wife is very careless and shameless. She fooled you. She gave you the impression that she was a wonderful saint. But she has been a devil. She is making it hard on you because she has refused to say who impregnated her. Perhaps it is even one of your friends.

Some may say that you should just accept the child as your own, but that is not easy to do. After she has given birth, encourage her to go back to her parents.

Pastor