This child is a mistake

Dear Pastor,

I am having a little problem and I need your advice. I am 24 years old. I have a child and I am pregnant again. This child is a mistake.

I did not want to become pregnant again, but the condom broke. We were only aware of it when we completed the act. I did not know there was a morning-after pill. After I missed my period and talked to my older sister about it, she told me that I should have taken the morning-after pill because she had unprotected sex with her boyfriend and he gave her money to buy the pill and it worked. She asked me how I could be so dumb not to know that I could have taken that pill.

My boyfriend is not quarrelling. He is not upset with me because he said he should have told me about the pill. He is not ready for us to get married. I don't want to get married to him either to cover up the pregnancy. My mother keeps our first child and I am sure that between my mother and my boyfriend's mother, they can take care of the children for us. I have really let down myself and my parents.

Some people say that taking the morning-after pill is like having an abortion. What do you have to say?

D.

Dear D.,

Perhaps you have been naive. You have not sought to educate yourself about relationships and sex. People have been talking about the morning-after pill for a long time.

When your boyfriend and yourself made love and the condom broke, you should have known what to do. But it does not make sense to rebuke you. You are already pregnant. Therefore, your boyfriend and yourself need to decide what to do with the child. Be careful what you do with yourself.

Those who are telling you now that the morning after pill is like committing abortion are talking nonsense. Go online and get yourself educated on the morning-after pill. Make sure that you are not careless again and become pregnant. I wish you well in the future.

Pastor