I have 2 children for 2 brothers

Dear Pastor,

I have a secret that I have carried with me for a long time. I have two children for two brothers. I had my first child and the father went to Canada and got mixed up over there with another woman. His brother used to give me money for his nephew. He would take his nephew out and bring him back after a whole day. He used to give me money to cook and he used to tell me that I was a good woman and his brother was no good for leaving me.

We used to talk about anything. I found myself getting to love him and one evening while he was here, it got late and I told him he didn't have to leave. I was feeling lonely. He did not even ask me for sex. I put the thoughts into his mind. After he entered the bathroom, I gave him one of his brother's shirts and underpants to wear. When I looked at him in the clothes, I started to cry. He asked me what was the matter and I told him that he reminded me so much of his brother. He held me and kissed me and one thing led to another. He got me pregnant.

I didn't say anything to his brother because we were not communicating. This man has been supporting his child. But I have never told anybody that the child is his and the child does not resemble him. But I know it is his child. I have a very good job. This man asks me if I would marry him. I am thinking about it, but I don't know if it is the right thing to do. So, I am writing to you for your advice.

B.R.

Dear B.R.,

I suggest that you and this man make an appointment to see a family counsellor. Be open with the counsellor. Tell the truth that you have nothing to do with your first babyfather. Talk about your present situation. You made a mistake by becoming sexually involved with the brother of your first child's father.

I am not here to condemn you. I am glad that you are working. You did not give me your age, but I can only appeal to you to be careful not to be used by men and to take care of your children.

Pastor