My husband makes sure that I dress well

Dear Pastor,

I am 27 years old and my husband is 30 years old. Sometimes I am not planning to go anywhere, but on a Saturday afternoon my husband would tell me that I should dress up.

He likes to see me in beautiful house gowns or lovely pants and blouses. Sometimes he would buy clothes for me for no reason at all and just take me driving somewhere. I have so many clothes that I hardly wear. I give them away to my sisters. My husband loves to see me dress, from my underwear right up. I told him that nobody can see what I have on underneath my skirt or my pants. He said that he understands that but he can see.

We have two children. Sometimes we dress up and take the children to their grandparents, and than pick them up before it gets dark and take them home.

When I first met my husband and he told me the colours he likes, I did not understand how different colours can enhance a relationship. He taught me that, and showed me the colours he likes to see me wear. When I am down, my husband would say, "Cheer up and go put on such-and-such dress, it would cheer you up." He told me that I should not wear yellow too often because it was his mother's favourite colour, and when he sees me in yellow, I remind him of her.

I look stunning in black. For Valentine's Day and Christmas, I must wear something red from top to bottom. He likes to see his two little girls in lovely colours, too. I don't intend to have other children or to have another man in my life. I am fortunate to have a very good man.

R.T.

Dear R.T.,

According to Bustle, "Colour is an immediate form of non-verbal communication. As wearers of clothing and accessories, people use colour to telegraph messages of love and attraction all the time." Here are some examples of a few colours. Blue can be used to open up communication. Green can be used for procession and healing. Purple can be calming. Cream and tan can help you and your partner to get a fresh start. Pink and magenta can bring more tenderness and affection into your relationship. Orange and yellow environments can spark great date conversation. Red can bring out the sexier side of your relationship.

I am glad that you are having a good relationship with your husband. Some women don't seem to understand that there are times when men come home from work and they like to see their women looking clean and nicely dressed. A woman doesn't have to be going anywhere to dress up for her husband, and you have learned that. I hope that he will continue to show respect to you and to take care of you. I wish you well.

Pastor