Church women are too materialistic

Dear Pastor,

I want to congratulate you on the wonderful work you are doing. I hope you can take time from your busy schedule to deal with my matter.

I am a father with three sons who I know about. I am not saying I don't have other children but these three were given to me by women who I am sure I went to bed with.

My mother always said that if I didn't go to these women, they couldn't call my name. So these women called my name and I have accepted what they said and supported these children. So far, they all have my mark on them, so they are mine.

I would like to have a daughter but I have failed in that area. So I am staying with the sons I have. I am still not married. I am now very active in church and I am looking around and hoping that I will find a partner there. The competition in church is very strong. Girls want men who are sharp dressers and who are in good jobs and drive nice cars. I take the bus to church and sometimes I am lucky to get a ride from a church brother to go home. So the same thing that worldly people look for from men, these church sisters want it too. I try my best to keep away from them because I don't have much to offer.

I do landscaping and that does not pay much. I have a board house and my boys and I live here. I tell them every day that they should be satisfied with what I can afford until life has changed for us. I don't have a problem with these boys but I am disappointed in the church sisters; they want too much. I will soon be 50 and I want to see my boys go to university. I don't say that they can't have girlfriends, but I don't want them to make the same types of mistakes that I did.

H.W.

Dear H.W.,

All women, whether they are Christians or not, have set their criteria of the type of men that they would like to marry.

So if a man goes into a church and believes that women will flock him, fall down at his feet and offer to marry him because he is a Christian, he is totally wrong.

The Christian woman needs a man who has a good job and is working enough to pay his bills and to give her money to run the home and to take care of herself. Yes, I say take care of her. You may say 'but she is working, why should I take care of her?' You should because you have married her and she is your wife. Others will disagree with me but that's how I see it.

Your church sisters are not fooling you. They probably love you but not to the extent where they would want to marry you. Your sons, I am sure, appreciate that you are a good father. One of these days they know that you will find a good woman. In the meantime, keep serving the Lord and continue to be active in church.

Pastor