I got engaged to myself - My man has not kept his promise to marry me

Dear Pastor,

I have been in love with a man for the past three years. He has been promising to marry me from the time we met. I introduced him to my family members and they all love him. I hardly know members of his family.

I earn a little more than him, but that does not bother me. I pay most of the rent because I earn more. Every year, he tells me that this is the year we will be getting married. However, by the middle of the year, when I ask him about the wedding plans, he says that we don't have to get married to be happy.

I grew up in a home where my parents were married. I went to Florida and bought a beautiful engagement ring that I have been wearing. My friends at work have congratulated me. I have got tired of living with this man as a single woman. I don't know what else to do, so I recently gave him an ultimatum. I told him that if we are not married by December 2022, he should pack up what he has in the house and leave.

When I met this man, he did not even have good underpants. I went out and shopped and bought him everything that he has now. I don't watch him, but the way he is behaving, I get the impression that he might have other women. I believe that he cannot decide which of us he should marry.

I would like to get your opinion.

A.J.

Dear A.J.,

I could understand why you are frustrated. For three years this man has been promising to marry you. You have even gone to the extreme by buying your own engagement ring. I am sure you were trying to speed up the matter, but the wicked man won't move. If you really want him out of your life, you didn't have to give him an ultimatum, you should just pack his bag one day and tell him to go. You should tell him that he has overstayed his time in your house and you will not make yourself a fool anymore.

You can continue to wear your engagement ring because it's your money that bought it. I must ask you, though, why have you allowed three years to roll by? This man has nothing and you are earning more than he does. You may say, well, you do not want to move from man to man. I am not telling you that you should. However, I believe that you can find another man and not waste your time with this one. You should do what is right. Run this man. Remember, you are getting older, don't waste your time on this boy!

Pastor