My boyfriend is too small

Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old young woman. I met a guy in May of this year. At first, I wasn't sure if I should've pursued a relationship with him because he was rough around the edges. However, after a while he changed and became almost the perfect man.

There is only one issue: His penis is small and he doesn't satisfy me sexually. He enjoys giving me oral pleasure, and although that is okay, I still want to be satisfied the traditional way.

He regularly speaks about marriage and I should be excited. However, I am rather confused as to how to feel. I don't want to leave him because he is a good man. But, on the other hand, I'm terrified of going into a marriage with a man who can't satisfy me because I will be unhappy.

I want to leave the relationship but I don't know how to do so, or on what grounds, because he treats me really well. If I leave him, he will be devastated.

Please advise me as to what to do.

F.

Dear F.,

If you and this man are seriously thinking about getting married, I suggest that both of you make an appointment to see a family counsellor and discuss the concerns that you are having. You believe that this man penis is too small; however, you did not mention the size of it. Many women have declared that size matters. But others have said that other things can compensate for the lack of size. But if both of you were to meet with a family counsellor, these things can be discussed openly and frankly. You may also consider discussing this concern with your family doctor.

You say that this man is not as rough as he used to be; and that he has become an almost perfect man. You don't want to lose this man. You did not give his age, but you gave yours.

Don't be in a hurry to get married. Make sure you get yourself a good education. A relationship is likely to fail if the only thing that excites the couple is sex.

Pastor