Can’t get enough sex

Dear Pastor,

I enjoy reading your column. I have been reading since I was in high school. When I was in college, my friends and I didn't have the money to buy THE STAR every day.

But we saw to it that whenever we had THE STAR, we passed it around. Most of my friends read it online. I am in guidance counselling and the information that you give to certain topics has helped me.

I am in my late 20s and I am sexually active. I started having sex when I was 16, two days after my birthday. I have only had two sexual partners. My first boyfriend and I broke up because he was a cheater. I told him that I did not share my man with any other woman and he said a man must have more than one woman. My present boyfriend is 38. He is in the motor car business. He bought me a car for my last birthday. That has caused some of my friends to be jealous of me, but some are glad to see me step up.

We are now living together. He used to talk to me about marriage before we started living together but we don't discuss it much any more. He has two children and sometimes they come to stay with us on weekends. They are lovely children. He is trying to get me pregnant, but nothing is happening. I am wondering if that is the reason why he is not discussing marriage recently. I would love for that to happen before the year comes to a close. He is trying to buy a property on the north coast to use as an Airbnb.

If we were married, I would put money into it, but he has not asked me to do so. I know I can get pregnant. Nothing is wrong with me because when I was younger, I got pregnant and lost the baby. My first boyfriend accused me of having an abortion and that was not the case. I never forgave him for accusing me of terminating the pregnancy. Perhaps you can tell me if something is wrong with me.

Whenever my boyfriend and I are making love, I orgasm several times before he ejaculates even once. Whenever I orgasm, I need more and even when he reaches his climax, I am all over him because I want more. Sometimes he slaps me playfully and tells me to try and sleep. I wonder if something is wrong with me.

Pastor, you are a gem. Thank you for the work you are doing.

Initials Withheld

Dear Writer,

I am glad that my column has helped you and I am also happy to know that you are a guidance counsellor. You will find your job very rewarding.

I encourage you to be confidential and not to divulge the names of the individuals you have counselled and the nature of the counselling. Students occasionally have very serious issues, and they love to know that they can discuss matters with counsellors in the strictest confidence. They also want to know that the counsellor will never condemn them.

I hope that you and your boyfriend will plan your lives intelligently. Give him time, he may still marry you. Of course, if you see that he is not making any move at all, don't be afraid to ask him why he has stopped assuring you that he would marry you. See what his response is. Pay much attention to his children when they come to your house; show them love. For your own protection, I have withheld your initials.

Some women experience multiple orgasms, but a man may only experience one ejaculation during an act and he should not force himself to have more.

Pastor