Want my married boyfriend to leave his wife

Dear Pastor,

It is a long time I have been wanting to write to you. I am having a relationship with a man who is married. His wife is wearing the ring, but I can say that I have the man.

I am not in need of anything. He gives me anything I ask him for. He and his wife live in a very expensive townhouse. The only problem I am having with him is that he does not take me out often and whenever we go out, he drives a heavily tinted car; so no one can see me unless I pull down the window. When we go to Port Royal, he goes out and orders the meals and takes the food to the car. I asked him how long he is going to continue hiding me. He said he is not hiding me, but he does not want to break up with his wife. I am ready to break them up.

Whenever she has to travel, he spends more time with me. I want this man. Sometimes I ask him whether his wife has tied him to her. He told me he does not believe that any woman can tie him. I gave up my child's father for this man. My child's father is always begging me to come back to him. But this man gives me much more money. Sometimes I wonder if he really loves me because when I nag him, he tells me whenever I see another man and I want to go with him, I can go; he will not stand in my way. So I asked myself whether this man truly loves me, and if he loves me, why would he tell me I can go with another man?

A year ago, I had no money in my bank account. Today I have over $400,000 and I got all of that from this man. One day a male friend came to see me and my son said to me, 'Mommy I am going to tell uncle so and so that a man was here to see you'. My son calls him uncle. I told him that I would spank him if he should talk. This man who visited me is an ordinary friend, nothing is going on between us. I was shocked when my son said that he would tell on me. Every week this man gives me money to go to the supermarket. I am begging him to buy me a car. But he said he will not do so because I will use the car to go out with other men.

I have what it takes to hold this man, but it seems to me that I have to do more. I have never spoken to his wife. Whenever I mention her name, he tells me to keep her out of our argument. I don't know what to do.

E.A.

Dear E.A.,

This man loves you, but he prefers to be with his wife. He does not intend to divorce his wife. You are hanging on to him because he is in a position to give you lots of money.

He does not even want the world to know you and that's why when he takes you out, it is in a heavily tinted car, and you are not allowed to come out of the car at all. Port Royal is such a lovely place, but whenever you go there with him, he does not allow you to get out and to sit among other people. So he is hiding you. Can't you see that he is only using you? But then again you are using him also. To be his friend is costing him a lot of money and you would always have to do what he wants you to do. How can you live like that?

I suggest that you tell this man you are tired of the type of relationship both of you are having, so you would like to move on. I am sure he will set you free because he has already told you that whenever you want to go, you can go. There is no future between the both of you.

Pastor