Can’t get this woman out of my house

Dear Pastor,

I am a reader of your column. I live in the USA, but I always read The Gleaner and THE STAR. These publications help me to keep informed of what is happening in my lovely country. When I read of the crime, I feel very sad and wonder why some men want to destroy Jamaica, the land we love. I don't think they will succeed because most Jamaicans are strong and they will fight to keep Jamaica's good name.

I have a problem. I was once married, but the marriage ended in a divorce. I should tell you that I am 65. I fell in love with a 39-year-old woman at my workplace. She has never been married.

I started to date her and everything was going all right. She asked me if she could move in with me and I agreed. But I didn't believe that it was going to be a permanent thing. I was only trying to help her save some money, but she has been here for the past two years.

One of my sons lives here. Before she came here, I got along well with him. But my mind is now disturbed because my son is 35 and this woman wants me to put out my son because according to her, he has put question to her. I don't believe her. My son has a lovely half Indian girl and he loves her without question. I did not want to ask my son anything. I told her that if my son put question to her, he must have been joking. She said he was not joking because one day when they were alone in the house, my son held her and he had an erection.

I told her that I did not believe her and she had overstayed her welcome, so she should try and find another place to live. She is not making any effort to leave. Would you believe that she complained to my son's girlfriend and this has caused them to have a big fuss? This girl told my son that she believed the woman and she is not coming back to visit him. I spoke to my son's girlfriend and told her that I did not believe this woman and she should not believe her either.

I have stopped eating from her because she is trying to tie me. She went to an obeah woman to try to tie me down. I found that out from one of her friends. We used to sleep together, but now I have stopped because she rubs up herself with ointment and I can't stand the smell. I want this woman out of my house. My son does not want to come here unless I am here. He is a young man and I don't want his reputation to be destroyed.

This woman wants to take over my place. If she does not leave, I am going to put her things out.

S.H.

Dear S.H.,

You have taken on trouble. This woman is living at your house for free. You did not have an arrangement with her that she would only be there for a limited time.

I am sure she felt when she came there that eventually both of you would get married. Your son has a right to be in your house. He has his girlfriend, but he is not yet ready to move out. I do not see why you should want him to move. I believe that this woman is lying. She will do anything to get him out of your house. Your son would be crazy to want to have a sexual relationship with this woman. If she did not intend to make trouble, why did she tell your son's girlfriend that your son is interested in her, and that he made sexual advances to her?

Your son has denied everything and you should take every step to get this woman out of your house. I suggest that you speak to a lawyer to assist you in getting this woman to leave. I hope your son's girlfriend will not break up their relationship. Make sure you do not put the woman's belongings outside. Let the lawyer tell you what to do. I wish you well.

Pastor