My girlfriend is behaving like a prostitute

Dear Pastor,

I am 24 and I need your advice. Two years ago, I met a girl at a wedding. I thought she was a girl I might be able to marry. We kept staring at each other.

We took pictures together and when the reception ended, I gave her my number and told her I would like to talk to her. I asked her if she had a boyfriend and she said no. She asked me if I had a girlfriend and I told her that I was recently single. Since then, we have called each other every day. She is living with her aunt who is a very strict woman. So, she does not have much freedom. Her aunt is a Christian, but she is not.

We decided to meet and to get to know each other. At that time I was not working and she was trying to find a job. After a month or so, she told me that she was going to tell her aunt about me. The aunt asked her where I worked and she told her that I was unemployed. Her aunt told her that she shouldn't have anything to do with a man who is not employed. She told me she did not want to go against her aunt's advice. However, I soon got a job.

As we went along, I found out that she not only had a pretty face, but she had been with a number of guys. I asked her why she had slept with so many guys, and she said she couldn't help it because she didn't have a job and she had to give the guys what they wanted to earn some money. This girl is only one year younger than I am. She is the first girl I had to offer money for sex. The first time we talked about having sex, she asked me how much I would give her. I told her I did not plan to give her any money because sex is not something I buy, but I could take her out for lunch. She said she was not hungry and she could stay home and cook. I was very surprised that she insisted that she wanted money.

Her aunt is a caregiver, so one day she asked me whether I could come by to see her because she was alone. I knew that her aunt would not be at home, so I went. I kept staring at this beautiful girl. She asked me if I had any money and I told her yes. She asked me how much and I asked her how much she wanted and she said she would take what I had. I took out $1,000 and she told me that that was why a girl must not just look at a man, because $1,000 can't even do her nails. She pushed her hand in my pocket and saw that I had more money and I had to agree to give her $4,000 out of the $5,00 I had.

This girl knew what she was doing because we did not even spend much time having sex. I ejaculated very fast and she said I didn't have much use; I felt ashamed. She has a job now, but every time we plan to meet, she tells me to make sure that I have some money because her aunt is now expecting her to help with the rent and groceries. She said that if I didn't want to see her, she was going to have to find another guy who can help her.

I.R.

Dear I.R.,

This young woman only has outward beauty, but she is conducting herself as a prostitute. If you are seriously looking for a woman to become your wife, you should end the relationship. When she told her aunt about you, and her aunt advised her not to have a relationship with a man who was not working, that was not a bad advice. Any man who is not working is not ready to have a serious relationship. But when you found out that she has had many men in her life, you should not have gone further in the relationship.

Some women insist that their men have to give them money every time they want to make love to them. Some women find great joy in playing the role of a prostitute before consenting to have sex with their men. One woman told me that her man has to give her money before she consents to have sex with him. Some women don't have any shame at all. So young man, you are with the wrong woman. You need to bring this relationship to an end. Find a woman you can trust and not a gold-digger.

Pastor