He took other women to my house!

Dear Pastor,

I am have been living with a man for three years. I took him up from the streets. He used to wash cars. He washed my car a few times and he seemed decent. I got to know him. He asked me if I could get him a job, so I looked around for him. I told him he could come to my house and cut the yard. He did and we became very good friends. I even made him drive my car to do little errands for me. I began to trust him and found myself liking him. My friends told me that I was crazy. I hadn't had sex for a long time, so when this man came around and told me how nice I was looking I felt as if I was in love. The first time we had sex I could not do it with him in my bedroom because, since my husband died, I have never taken a man in there, so we had sex on the floor in the living room. I had to have surgery and was in the hospital for a week. He came to the hospital to see me twice, but neighbours told me that he was taking girls in my house. He said it is not true, but I believe my neighbours - they look out for me. I told him that I don't want to see him again but, in my heart, I want to see him. One of my friends called me a dumb goat. I feel so bad. I was carried away by this young man. He is 20 years my junior.

U.P.

Dear U.P.,

Your friends should not condemn you. You have only made mistakes that can be very costly. This guy targeted and you liked him and got carried away. Loneliness can make people, whether they are educated or uneducated, do crazy things. Use your head and don't allow your heart to rule you. This man would use you. Your friends mean you well. Don't brush their thoughts aside.

Pastor