His woman gets everything, his child gets nothing

Dear Pastor,

I am writing with tears in my eyes because I really don't know what to do. I have a four-year-old son. I am the only one who has been taking care of him for the past four years. I have not received anything from his father, not even a candy since his birth. During my pregnancy, I found out that he was cheating, on me, so I decided that I did not want to be in a relationship with him anymore. Because of this, he told me that if he is not with me, he will do nothing for my child. I am trying my best to take care of my son on my own. I work everyday and I ensure that my son has everything he needs.

My problem right now is that he has a girlfriend. She is 21. He is 44 and she keeps telling him that my son is not his, so he has been walking around telling people that my son is not his. I asked him to agree to do a DNA test, but he has refused. Whenever I ask him to help me with anything for my son, he goes back to saying it's not his child. I asked him to help me to buy some clothes for the child and he started cursing, telling me how I am wicked because I know he doesn't have it. But a week later, his girlfriend is on Instagram and Facebook bragging about her new iPhone that he got her from the States. This man buys weaves, clothes and whatever his girlfriend needs, but when I ask for anything for my son, he tells me how wicked I am. What should I do? Please give me your advice. Thank you in advance.

O.D.

Dear O.D.,

Do you really want me to tell you what to do? Do you not know that there is a place that you can take a man for child support? That place is the Family Court. He tells you he is not the father of this child. Let him tell the Magistrate what he has been telling you and he/she will order the DNA test. You shouldn't have to argue with him.

Right now, he is behaving as a fool. If you were prepared to go to bed with him, he probably would have been giving you money to support the child. What he wanted was to have two women at the same time. He is a wicked young man and you ought not to be tolerating his nonsense. Take him to court. No more argument with him. You shouldn't be concerned what he is doing for his woman. What you need for him to do is to support the child that he has fathered. When you go to court, just speak the truth and ask the Magistrate to direct him to pay the money through the court. In that way, a proper record would be kept because he would be given a receipt for the money he has given.

He is a very wicked man. You should not allow him to get away with his wickedness. The court is there to see that you receive justice, so do what you ought to do and stop complaining.

Pastor