My relationship is too boring

Dear Pastor,

I am in a boring relationship. I am 40. and I am seeing a woman who is 43. She has never married. I am divorced. She lives with her sister.

Whenever I go to see her, she does not even sit with me on the same couch. All she wants us to discuss is the Bible. If we are not talking about the Bible, it is about her church or when are we going to get married. When I am ready to leave and ask her for a goodnight kiss, I have to kiss her on her cheek. I am not used to that.

I want to buy her an engagement ring, but I don't know anything about her, whether she is a man or a woman. She said I must take her word for it. She has a very good job and makes more money than I do. She is very proud and does not compromise. I don't know what to do. That is why I am asking for your advice. I am a frustrated man.

Frustrated Man

Dear Frustrated Man,

You have to try and understand that your fiancEe is accustomed to her singleness. She is a dedicated Christian. Perhaps she has never been sexually active. Now that you are divorced and interested in this woman, you probably would love to have sex with her before marriage.

She probably feels that sitting with you on the couch will turn you on. You probably consider that an insult and a big turn off. You have to respect her position. I understand how you feel but if you really love her and would marry her, why don't both of you go to see her minister, discuss your problems and concerns and seek advice about what to do. Of course, you should not go unless you are sure you want to marry her.

Pastor