My man thinks I am giving him a 'jacket'

Dear Pastor

I am a young woman and I have become pregnant. The man who got me pregnant is questioning whether the child I am carrying is his. He is giving me an attitude. He is not nice to me at all. He constantly talks about getting a DNA done to prove whether or not he is the father. We had a good relationship until I told him that I was pregnant. Since then he has changed. He is depressing me and I can't take his attitude towards me. He said people told him things about me and that I am giving him a 'jacket'.

I have never cheated on this man. I know this child belongs to him. I have agreed to do the DNA if that is what he wants. I don't want to see him at all because he has shamed me by thinking that I went to another man or that I behave like a prostitute. I am planning to end the relationship with him because I cannot be with a man who does not trust me. Cheating is not something that I will do.

Now that I am leaving him, he wants us to get back together. I could never see myself going back to this man even if I have to support my baby alone. This man will never change. He listens to people. I know I can do better, I don't have to let him into my life. I am a one-man woman. Yet, whenever he is around and my telephone rings, he wants to know who is on the phone. I will not put up with this type of man in my life.

Pastor, am I right to tell this man to leave me alone? I am so tired of him.

Fed up

Dear Fed up,

Some men don't know how to appreciate good women. You are a good woman, but the mistake you have made is to become pregnant by this man who doesn't know what he has. He feels very proud of himself to have impregnated you, but he can't believe that it has really happened. He is a foolish man. You should stop wondering if you are doing the right thing by ending the intimate relationship with him. If he has to question whether the child that you are carrying is his, you don't need such a man as a partner. Which woman wants to live under the suspicion from her man that the child she is carrying is for another man?

He believes his friends. He values them more than you. At least, that is the impression that he is giving whether he knows it or not. After you have given birth, insist that he supports his child, but don't give him the impression that you want him back. Even if he cries blood, don't go back to him. I am afraid you didn't know him well before you allowed him to get you pregnant.

Please, don't repeat that mistake with any other man.

Pastor