I hear my boyfriend has another girl pregnant

Dear Pastor,

I am 19 years old and I am having a problem with my boyfriend. He is 25. We became friends when I was 14. Sex wasn't involved until I became 17. It started when he used to give me rides in his father's car when I was going to school. I used to put myself in the way sometimes for him to see me to give me rides. When his father was not in the car he would talk to me, but when his father was in the car he would just say, "Hi".

On my 16th birthday, I told him that he could come to the party, but he said no. He never came and I was vexed with him, but he bought me chocolate and a watch. My school was having a football match. I told him about it and he came. After the match he bought burger, not only for me but my two other friends. I told him I wasn't ready to go home because it was early and my mother was not going to be home. We planned to meet and I waited for him. We kissed repeatedly behind a parked bus. The following Saturday, he called me and told me he would have his father's car on Sunday evening. I could not meet him. We had a date for the following Friday evening and that is when it happened. We had sex in his father's car. It was so painful. we text each other every day . Pastor, the problem I am having now with him is that he has another girlfriend and I heard from good source that she is pregnant. He said that it is not true. I introduced him to my mother and she likes him. I don't know what I would do if this girl is really pregnant by him. Do you think that I should leave him? Every time I think about it I cry because he is my first boyfriend.

F.D.

Dear F.D.,

Your boyfriend told you that he is not responsible for getting the other young woman pregnant. He might be lying or he might be speaking the truth; time will tell. I would like to urge you to do your best to get a career. That's what you need. Whether you know it or not, intelligent men like women who can support themselves. You have been having sex with your boyfriend. He hasn't gotten you pregnant, but that does not mean that if you are careless you wouldn't. And although he is your first boyfriend, there is no guarantee that he would marry you. You didn't say what type of work he does and, now that you are 19, what you do. So, even if you are working, try to go back to school. If this guy has gotten the woman pregnant, I hope that he would tell you the truth and I hope also that he would support the child. And I would ask you not to call the girl to warn her to keep away from your man. She doesn't have anything to do with you and you don't know what he might have told her, so be wise and hold your corner, so to speak.

Pastor