Is my clitoris too big?

Dear Pastor,

I am writing you about something that is bothering me. I am 16 years old, but I will be 17 in March and I have a problem. My younger sister and I were having a shower together. So, we were naked, I look at her vagina and saw it was different from mine. I asked my mother about it. She did not rough me up or run me.

I noticed that my sister's vaginal area was very flat while my clitoris was longer. My mother told me that that was not something to worry about. She said that some girls are like that. I did not bother myself about it then, but the first time I had sex, my boyfriend commented that my clitoris is long, but he liked it. That relationship didn't work out because the guy left and went abroad.

I have another boyfriend now. We haven't had sex. Pastor, I am wondering if I am abnormal. Should anybody see my clitoris by just looking at me? If I cut my pubic hair, one can see everything. Do you think that I am abnormal?

G

Dear G,

You don't have anything to worry about when it comes to your clitoris. I am not a medical doctor, but I am sure that from what you have said, you are normal. And your mother would have told you if something was wrong. She would have observed that as you were growing up. There are indeed some women whose clitorises are larger than others.

I suppose what you are bothered about is the flap that you are seeing. It is there to protect your clitoris. Your clitoris has only one basic function and that is to give pleasure during sexual intercourse. It has no other function, so to speak. You would observe (I am talking to you as a grown woman) that it is a very sensitive area and it has no other purpose than to enhance sexual pleasure during sexual intercourse.

So, don't worry about yourself. But remember that you are a young girl and you should be careful not to give yourself over to men. You had sex with a guy and now he left you. He has gone abroad. Now you have a new guy, don't believe that you must have sex with him for him to stay with you. I think that you should do your best in school, and concentrate on a career. There are some men who would only love you because of what they can get from you. Try your best to focus on getting a career and excel in whatever you do.

Before I go, may I suggest that you go to a gynaecologist and let him or her explain to you further about the concern you have about your clitoris.

Pastor