Ex-boyfriend keeps stalking me

Dear Pastor,

I have been having a problem from I was 17 years old. I have been having sex with different boys. Two months ago, my last boyfriend left for America. He left the very day I turned 20. I gave him a 'goodbye' by having sex with him. He took me to a hotel and he was so tired after we had sex, he fell asleep.

on my way out

When we were leaving he walked out before me with his bag, and I left the room a few minutes later. On my way out, I saw one of my ex-boyfriends, with a girl that I know, in the lobby. He asked me what I was doing and I told him that I was only visiting, and I walked away. But he would not go about his business.

My boyfriend picked up that something was wrong and he walked back to the front of the building. The guy who was watching saw him.

My ex-boyfriend came by my workplace to look for me a few days later and told me that although we are not together again, it bothered him to know that I have a man and that I slept with him at the hotel.

Pastor, he keeps texting me and asking me if we could not get back together. I told my boyfriend that I would be true to him while he is away, but I am afraid that this guy who saw me will hurt me because he is not taking no for an answer. We broke up because he got another girl pregnant.

Please tell me what to do.

P.P.,

Dear P.P.,

You said that you became sexually active when you were 17 years old and you had a few boyfriends in your life. Your current boyfriend was leaving to go abroad and you want to give him a 'goodbye', so you went to the hotel and did your thing.

An old boyfriend saw you and he suspected that you were there with a man. You confirmed it and he is asking you now to renew the relationship and your answer is no. But you are afraid of him. You are not to be afraid of him; you have promised your boyfriend to be faithful to him. Try to keep your word. Don't be afraid of this man who is not taking 'no' for an answer.

If you behave as if you are afraid of him, he would always try to manipulate you. Warn him that if he threatens you, you will report him to the police. And tell him that you are prepared to take out a restraining order against him. I know you may say that you don't have the money to do so, but don't be afraid.

Under the Domestic Violence Act, the court should grant an individual protection or restraining or occupation order if you can prove you are being stalked or ill-treated. You can go to the court and speak with the clerk, who will assist you in filling out a form so that the matter can be brought before a judge.

Pastor