I may have got a bad man’s girl pregnant

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 years old and my girlfriend is 28. When I met her, she told me that she had a boyfriend and she was not working. She is a friend of one of my sisters.

We started to call each other, and she told my sister that she liked me. My sister told me about this woman's boyfriend and said that I should be careful because he is a bad man.

But my sister said that she wouldn't tell me not to have anything to do with her friend.

One night I was sleeping and she called me and told me she would like to see me. I told her that I had gone to bed.

She asked me if I didn't understand when a woman says she wants a man what she means. I asked her for her boyfriend, and she told me he had gone on a mission.

I told her she could take a taxi and come. She came to where I was living and we had sex.

Now, Pastor, she is pregnant, and she told me about it. She believes that it could be for me. I told her to give the belly to her boyfriend, and she agreed to do so.

I know I was stupid to have unprotected sex with her. But she told me that she could not get pregnant. I am scared. I hope that this child belongs to her boyfriend.

I hope that this child will not resemble me. Sometimes I have headaches over this problem. I only had sex with this girl twice.

The two times we had sex, I gave her money because she said that her boyfriend was short on cash. If the child she is carrying is mine, I will have to run away.

B.W.

Dear B.W.,

Your sister told you that this girl had a boyfriend and her boyfriend was a bad man. That was enough warning from a sister to a brother not to get mixed up with this woman.

But this girl saw you as a good catch. You probably did not tell her that you had a girlfriend, so that night when she called you, she expected you to be alone.

And she wanted two things from you - sex and money - and you fell for her trap. You didn't even think that you might get her pregnant. You went to her 'bare back', and now she is telling you that she is pregnant, and you may be responsible.

You are in a pot of hot soup, and I am afraid that you will have to wait until she has given birth to ascertain whether you are the biological father.

I am afraid that you are not a wise young man. I hope for your sake that you are not the father of the child this woman is carrying, but if you are, support your child.

I hope you won't have to run from the area, but if you have to run for your life, do so.

Pastor