Boyfriend in prison and I’m dating his friend

Dear Pastor,

I need your advice. I am 24 years old and I have a child for a man. When I met him, he told me that he had a girlfriend but he was looking for a wife.

We started to go out together. He treated me very well. The only mistake we made was that we had unprotected sex and I got pregnant, and I have this beautiful daughter that he loves so much.

He got into trouble with the law and he is now in prison. That has caused my mind to change from him. Even some of my friends have made it worse by calling my child's father a 'jail bud'.

I told this man that I would visit him and give him whatever I could afford to give him, but he is not taking it well.

I have another man in my life but this man was his friend. When my child's father and I were together, this man and I did not have an intimate relationship.

I have got to love him, but sometimes I wonder if it is the right thing for me to do. I am not with this man because of what he can give to me because I am currently working with my father in his business. Plus, I am living at home. I am my parents' only child.

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Dear Writer,

Regardless of what you say about your present relationship, there are some people who would consider what you are doing is wrong. They would say that you should not have become emotionally involved with your babyfather's friend while he is incarcerated. They are going to accuse you of having had a relationship with him before your babyfather was incarcerated. But you need not worry what people would say in this matter, because the love that you have for your child's father has died.

You have not said how long this man will be incarcerated. But that does not matter either. What matters now is that you should be very careful how you go forward. Try your best not to get pregnant by your new man until you both of you are married.

Pastor.