Girlfriend cheated on me with her ex

Dear Pastor,

This is the first time that I am writing to you. But my girlfriend and I read your column every day, and we listen to you every night.

My girlfriend says that she loves and cares about me. But Pastor, she has done something terrible.

I went to Florida for one weekend and when I came back, I found out that my girlfriend had cheated on me.

I was away for just one weekend. This is not the first that time that she is guilty of cheating.

The child that she has is not my own. We were going together and our relationship was just four months old when she cheated and got pregnant.

She admitted it to me and we kept it down, and I forgave her because our relationship was young. People don't even know that I am not the father of her child and we have never told the child that I am not the father. He is registered in my name. But I am hurting because the father is the same man she had sex with when I was gone.

When I asked her why, she said they were just talking on the phone and he was telling her how much he still loved her and he would like to see his child.

So she told him to come over and he did. He stayed longer than she expected him to, and one thing led to another, and they had sex.

I have never cheated on her. Her child is two years old. I asked her what this man has over me and she couldn't answer. What should I do? Please help me.

T.M.

Dear T.M.,

While I do not wish to break up relationships, I must tell you that I could not encourage you to remain with this woman.

And I say this because this is not the first time she has cheated on you. In the early days of the relationship, she cheated and got pregnant.

You forgave her and accepted the child as your very own. And the child is registered in your name as the father.

You were only away for a few days and your woman allowed the father of the child to come by your house and had sex with him. She has no shame. She cannot be trusted.

She is too easy to get. If you allow the relationship between both of you to continue, it is likely that she will cheat again. There must be a better woman somewhere for you.

End this relationship with this woman. But before you do, discuss the matter with a lawyer. I wish you well.

Pastor