Threw my cheating girlfriend out

Dear Pastor,

I am Jamaican but I am living overseas. I am living with a woman who is 24 years old; I am 27.

I know she was 'flirty flirty' when we met but when we started to go together, she promised that she would put an end to that flirty behaviour. She's very beautiful and I love her.

She always wants to have sex. Even when I am tired she won't leave me alone. She lost her job so she was at home for a short period of time.

During that time, she got involved with another man. The man used to go to our apartment and have his time with her. It was her sister who opened my eyes and told me what she was doing. They had a fuss and her sister threatened her and told her that she would tell what was going on, and she did.

SHE TOLD HER SISTER TO LEAVE

I asked her why she had to bring a man to our house, and she said that the person was only dropping off something, but she could not tell me what the person was dropping off.

I told her that I thought she had stopped having other men, and she said she has not been seeing anybody and I should believe her. Then she said it's only her sister who would tell me that a man came to the house because her sister doesn't like her.

She called her sister in my presence and told her she should pack up and leave. I told her sister that she should not leave. Then she started to accuse me of having an affair with her sister.

I have never touched her sister. Then she admitted that she only had sex with the guy once. Her sister packed her bags and called a friend to pick her up.

I insisted that my girlfriend had to leave also. She asked me to give her more time; I gave her until the following day. The following day she asked me for some money so I gave it to her. She asked for more time so I gave her until the weekend. This guy who came to the house promised her that he would rent a place for her, but he has not kept his word.

He does not have anything. He does odd jobs. Do you think I am wrong to ask her to leave? I don't want her back in my life. Do you think I am wrong to put her out? Please be honest with me.

T.C.

Dear T.C.,

You are not wrong in asking this woman to leave. This is not a woman you can trust. Whatever she did in the past before the both of you met and decided to live together, you told her that you were willing to put these things behind you and she promised that she would be faithful to you. But she didn't, and her sister told you that she had another man coming to the house. Whether she went to bed with that man one time or one hundred times, you could not stay with her, so you should not feel guilty about ending the relationship with her.

Such a woman would embarrass you and would always cause you to be wondering how many more men she would take to your house. So let her go her way.

Pastor