Married man is pursuing me

Dear Pastor,

I wrote to you before in a letter titled 'Giving my boyfriend bus fare'. I must say thank you for your response and I have taken your advice into consideration. I have left my boyfriend's home and I am now at my parents' home. I am now saving the money I would normally use for his bus fare and dinner. My daughter is getting more as well. As it relates to my child's father, he is keeping his whereabouts a secret, so I am unable to take him to court. He still sends whatever money he feels like, whenever he feels like.

Now, Pastor, I'm writing you concerning a married man that is pursuing me. I will be honest with you, I am not attracted to this man, and I am still in a relationship with my boyfriend. However, our situation has not got any better. He still tells me that he loves me and he still cannot take care of me. I don't mean to come off as a bad woman, but this married man said that he's willing to compromise. I don't like the idea of being a side chick but I need financial support.

I don't mean to sound ungrateful but the little I am making cannot do for me and my daughter. There are many things I want to get done and this man said that he is willing to take care of me and my daughter. I am embarrassed about writing to you because I really don't want to mess up his marriage, even though he said that he and his wife are not happy. They do not have children. I'm now asking for your advice. I have never cheated on my boyfriend before but now I am tempted to do so because I need the financial help. Your advice will help me a lot like it has done in the past. I look forward to hearing from you soon.

Anonymous

Dear Writer,

You are going to be used by this man. You should learn to live on the small salary you make and don't take away money from this man's wife. Because although he tells you that he can support you, you should remember that it is wrong. It is wrong to take money from a man who is married and who lives with another woman. And it is just a matter of time before you get hurt and before you totally destroy the relationship he has with his wife.

Therefore, I suggest that you should try to live a decent life and end the relationship with this man.

You said that you and this man have not started to have sex as yet. I can tell you that even if this man gives you some money it is only going to be a matter of time before he demands sex from you.

Pastor