Daughter-in-law holding my son back

Dear Pastor,

I have three children and I am 44 years old. They are grown children. Two of them are for my husband, but the first child is not. My first child has already given me a grandchild and he is very ambitious. He bought a piece of land on the hill and he wants to build a house.

His girlfriend is working, but she has become very worried because of COVID-19. He has a visa and he wants to go to the US to try his luck, but she has been complaining every day that he does not have to go.

My son is a good boy. His girlfriend told him that whatever he would do in the USA, he can do in Jamaica. She says that wherever he goes, she wants to go with him. That is not possible, because he is going to stay with one of my sisters in New York. And when he can 'bounce' for a while, she won't be able to bounce with him.

She is not happy with me these days. She thinks I am encouraging my son to leave her. Pastor, that is not what I am trying to do. Now the poor boy is confused. He does not know what to do. Instead of her pushing him forward, she is holding him back. Please give me your advice.

V.

Dear V.,

I suggest that you leave this couple alone. Let them make their own decision. You are your son's mother, but the young woman is his wife. They have to live their lives.

This woman knows her body. She knows whether she could do without a man for a while and not get into trouble. And she knows if she can trust her man when he is away for a long period of time. If she wants to go with him, they don't have to stay at your sister's house. They can live somewhere else. If this man and this woman are working, they can fight through life. The woman does not want her man to leave her here. I beg you, although he is your son, keep out of their problems.

Pastor