Not sure if my child’s dad is alive

Dear Pastor,

Greetings to you in the mighty name of Jesus. Continue with your good work. I'm a 30-year-old mother of two. I have a daughter who is five and a son who is almost two.

They have different fathers. There has been a lot going on with my daughter's father and myself. We are not together, but we share a great bond where she is concerned.

I found this hard to believe. Around late September 2018, I received the news that he was involved in a motor bike accident in May Pen, and was rushed to the May Pen Hospital where he was unconscious as a result of head injuries. I heard that he was coming from a party with a male friend who owns the bike. He wasn't wearing any head gear but his friend was.

I didn't have any money, so I called his mother. Pastor, she told me that she couldn't do anything about that, because she had two daughters to look after and they didn't have any father and it was her alone and she hoped that it wasn't anything serious.

Pastor, he is her first child and he was without a father, because his dad died when he was young. Later on in the day, I heard that he was rushed to the Kingston Public Hospital (KPH).

I went to May Pen Hospital to seek information and clarity. They told me that an unidentified motor bike accident victim was rushed to KPH. I went to KPH and was told that they had not received anyone from May Pen. They gave me a visiting pass to go check on a few wards where some unidentified persons were. I still could not find him.

October 12 was his birthday and I went back to KPH, but still got no answers. It was the same at May Pen and the Spanish Town Hospital. Other persons have also tried to find him.

In December 2018 a young girl who lived where he was staying messaged me. She said one of his friends came to the house upset, saying a funeral parlour brought him and an unknown female from "town come bury" at the Denbigh Cemetery. Pastor, since then I have not heard anything else. Each day that goes by without any word of his disappearance worries me. I don't know what to tell my baby girl when she gets older.

In March 2020, she became very ill. I rushed her to the Bustamante Hospital for Children. A few days after, she was diagnosed with leukemia. Since then, I haven't got any assistance from her dad's side of the family.

I tried to communicate with her grandmother, but she seems to show no interest in her grandchild. Before my daughter's diagnosis, her blood count was very low. I was asked to seek blood donors as she would need multiple transfusions. I didn't know where to start, so I called the grandmother and asked if she could assist in getting at least two units of blood even though she needed much more than that. She said that she couldn't help and that she did not know anyone to ask. I said okay.

Pastor, she never took up her phone and call to see how her only grandchild is doing. Currently, my daughter is not bad. She is active and, with the help of God, the doctors, my family, relatives and friends. She has been getting better day by day, even though there have been a few delays. Please keep us in your prayers always. Thank you and may God bless you continuously.

D.B.

Dear D.B.,

It seems to me that the hospital should have informed you when this gentleman died and where the body was sent. They must have that information and you should be told who were those responsible. I believe that you need some help and, since they seem to be giving you the runaround, you need to put this matter in the hands of an attorney. You shouldn't have to be running here, there and everywhere to find the body of the deceased.

I wish I could be of help to you, but it seems to me that your relatives should come together and try to find out what really happened.

Pastor