My ex-boyfriend is now a prostitute

Dear Pastor,

I hope all is well with you. Pastor, my ex-boyfriend is a married man and he is also a prostitute. We have been separated for a few years now. Less than a year after we broke up, there were rumours swirling that he was going to marry a woman from England, and he did.

We talk occasionally, but whenever we do, it's like a drama. He travels to Canada and he told me he's on the seasonal farm work programme. He also told me that he sleeps with women and they give him money in exchange for sex, even though he is married. I was shocked. He doesn't need to prostitute himself because he's on the farm work programme.

He says that he makes 'good money' from his female customers. When he tells me about his wild life in Canada, I tell him that I hope that he is using protection. My mother says I should advise him to get a divorce if that's how he plans on living his life as a man in a committed relationship with his wife. However, I do not want to involve myself in my ex-boyfriend's marital affairs. So I told my mother I am not giving him any advice on what he should do because he knows right from wrong.

Pastor, should I inform him to change his ways without bringing up his marriage or leave him to fall into his own fate?

C.

Dear C.,

Perhaps I am wrong but I rather suspect that you are still in love with this young man. Your mother described him as a man in a committed relationship. I am sure you do not see him that way. He is a male prostitute and he is happy to inform you that he is doing very well financially practising his skill, so to speak.

This young man is putting his life at risk. He is practising prostitution, he is not using a condom, and at the same time he is living with his wife whenever he is in Jamaica. If he is careless, he risks exposing his wife to a sexually transmitted disease and if you are his friend, you should caution him on the danger of having unprotected sex.

He likes the way he lives and probably would not want to seek a divorce, but he is living dangerously and you should avoid going to bed with him.

Pastor