Tempted to cheat on my boyfriend

Dear Pastor,

I am 18 years old and I am asking for your advice. I am attending a prominent high school. When I was 16, I started having sex with different boys. My mother used to leave my brother and myself and go out and did not return for the night. I was left in charge of my brother and when I wanted my boyfriend to come to the house, I would make sure that my brother went to bed early. I even had sex with one of the guys who fooled around my mother. He said that he did not have sex with her, but I suspect that he did. I only had sex with him one time.

I would never let her know that. I needed some 'girl's stuff' and I had spent all the money my mother gave me. I did not know what to do so I called this man, and he came by and we played around and that happened. Every time I think about it, I feel sorry for what I did. I am now focusing on my future.

I have a boyfriend at the moment and the relationship is one and a half years old. He is 22 years old and is still living with his parents. His parents are Christians. They are Sabbath keepers, so I go to see him at their house when they are at church. They wouldn't want him to bring me there. Every week, he gives me $3,000 from his pay. We are always talking about our future.

One day, we had sex and the condom broke and he didn't have any money to give me to buy the morning after pill, but I was fortunate that nothing happened. He attends university part-time. He does not want to stay in Jamaica. I do not want to stay in Jamaica either because I won't get much help from anybody because I don't even know my father.

My mother knows about him and she is always warning me not to get pregnant. Sometimes when my boyfriend has to work on weekends and I can't see him, I am tempted to call other guys that I know. But my boyfriend is always checking on me by texting and calling me. I don't want to cheat on him but, from time to time, I need more money because I want to do my hair and nails.

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Dear Writer,

I think you're a bad girl. You are not satisfied with what your mother is able to give you, and as a result, you have done naughty things by getting involved with one of the men with whom she had a relationship. Shame on you. If you continue to be promiscuous, you are going to be a miserable person when you get older. You are behaving as if your body is on fire, but it is not.

The problem is you want much more than is necessary for you to live. You want extra things to show off. I hope that you would not be tempted to seek pleasure from every man who comes your way. If you truly love your present boyfriend, you shouldn't fool around other guys. Do what you say you want to do. Concentrate on your schoolwork and don't blow the money that your boyfriend gives to you every week.

Pastor