This guy is a certified freak

Dear Pastor,

I have a boyfriend and he is very freaky. I am 26 years old. The things that he wants me to do I have never done and I am older than he is. This guy is 23.

The first place he invited me to was a club and there were male strippers at the club. There were also girls who were stripping and this guy got into it and went on the stage and started to take his clothes off piece by piece, and when he was finished dancing, I told him that I was embarrassed. He said he was doing that to entertain me. He wants us to do freaky things in bed.

When he introduced certain things to me and I objected, he said that nobody would know what we did in bed. I do not trust this man but I have got more money from him than from any man and he takes me anywhere I want to go. He said that I should go because he does not own me, but I should not try to stop him from going wherever he wants to go.

He wants us to have an open relationship. He is very clean. He spends a long time in the bathroom, much longer than I stay in there. He grew up with his mother alone, and he is always talking about her. Sometimes I do not know what to do when I think of this relationship. Should I go or should I stay with him? He makes the best curry goat or fried chicken dinners, and I can stay in bed all day and I like that. He does not plan to get married to anybody and I would like to get married, but I would not do the freaky stuff. So what should I do?

S.A.

Dear S.A.,

You are involved with the wrong man. Although he might give you money and he is a good lover, he is still not the right man for you. Some time ago, you went clubbing with him and you did not even know that he was a stripper. You said that he is also very freaky and I do not want to bother to mention what you describe as his freaky stuff. I would suggest, however, that you end the relationship with this man and you do so early. You do not need this type of man in your life, especially if you decide to get married in the future. You should not have sex with this man without using a condom. You will be endangering your life if you have unprotected sex with him.

Pastor