My husband’s ex-wife tried to obeah me

Dear Pastor,

I am 33 years old. I had my first child when I was 19. I met my husband when I was 22 and by then I was attending church.

Before we got married, there were times when I used to go and sleep over at his place and my mother would keep my baby. When my child's father realised that I had found a man, he made me many promises. He said that he would marry me, but I changed my mind because everytime I asked him for money for the baby, he demanded sex. This other man that I met was 45 years old. I didn't need to ask him for money because he gave me an allowance every week. He got me pregnant and he was very happy. He was overjoyed when I told him that the child was a boy. He told me he was married but he and his wife had broken up, and it was true.

One day I was at his house and his wife showed up. I did not know what to do, so I called him and told him that she was there. In a few minutes, he came home and he demanded that she should leave. Before he got there, she was very nice and told me all about herself. But when he came she started to curse me, telling me that I was too young for him and that she will never leave him. She told him that I told her that I didn't love him and I was only with him for this money. She and I did not have that sort of conversation. This man and I got married, and his ex-wife promised that she would not stop until she broke us up because she knew where to go to put fire in my 'backside' to leave him. She went to an obeah man and he gave her things to sprinkle in the yard and on the steps. She was trying to give me 'bad foot', but she was not successful.

SECOND PREGNANCY

When I got pregnant with my second child, she said my child was not for my husband. The number of things that woman said about me, I wonder where she got them from. But my husband stayed with me. He told me to ignore her. He told me that his obeah was stronger than hers. He would sweep the steps and the yard and throw away the grave dirt she sprinkled on the steps and in the yard. My husband told me that he knew that she has a man in America and he will never go back to her. It is hard to live and be harassed by another woman. Right now I am going back to school. My husband's age has not bothered me at all. I am proud of him and I respect him. If my husband did not have any sense, he would have believed this woman, especially when he was told that I had another man in my life.

B.H.

Dear B.H.,

This woman has to learn to stand her losses. You had nothing to do with the separation of she and her husband. You should continue to be faithful to your man. I am sure when she came to the house, she was trying to get information from you about your husband. Take care of your man and your children. This obeah thing is in her mind. She is wasting her money on an obeah man or woman. She is not a good woman. Be strong.

Pastor